Ask Amy: My fiancee’s family says I’m not invited, and she’s going without me

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Dear Amy: My fiancée and I have been together for over five years.

When her family had get-togethers, I noticed that they would say mean things to my fiancée, and she wouldn’t defend herself. In response to this, I would lightly defend her, by making jokes or whatever.

The last couple of years when they’ve invited anyone to family events, they have specifically said that I’m not invited.

My fiancée just says, “OK, no problem,” and she goes by herself.

Am I wrong in wanting her to stand up for me – or should I just leave it be?

 Stumbling

Dear Stumbling: Of course you want your fiancée to stand up for you! And not only is she not defending you, but now she is allowing her family members to bully her and you – by excluding you.

When couples come together and decide to form a family, the idea is that they should walk through life hand-in-hand – as a team. They put their relationship at the center of their lives, with their families orbiting around them.

Your fiancée is obviously dominated by her family, and now that she has established her pattern of behavior when it comes to them, you’ll have to imagine what life with her will really be like.

It’s hard to envision a happy wedding celebration if your future in-laws refuse to be in your presence.

You two have a lot to work out. I hope you will delay your marriage until you really discuss and resolve these deep issues, preferably with the help of a couples’ counselor.

Dear Amy: I have an etiquette question. Is it still acceptable to refer to men as “gentlemen” and women as “ladies?”

I have read that some people may take offense to the use of those words.

At baseball games that I attend, the team used to be introduced on the field by the announcer saying, “And now, ladies and gentlemen, here are your Pittsburgh Pirates!”

Now, most announcers at the ballpark simply say, “And now, here are your Pittsburgh Pirates!”

I would be interested to know your position on this.

Polite Gentleman

Dear Gentleman: I didn’t realize that I needed to have a “position” on this. (Nor is this really an etiquette question.) But let me take a swing at it.

I am female, and although perhaps I can’t really claim to be a “lady,” I am not personally bothered at all by being politely referred to in this way.

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