Bridesmaid refusing to remove “gaudy” necklace for sister’s wedding blasted

A bridesmaid’s refusal to remove a sentimental piece of jewelry for her sister’s big day has been slammed online.

The woman, posting as user ThrowRANeck_lace, shared that her sister is getting married in three months but it’s caused a huge rift between them. They have always been close siblings, the anonymous 25-year-old shared in a popular post to Subreddit “Am I the A**hole,” but a wedding-themed disagreement has put a spanner in the works.

They wouldn’t be the only ones facing such issues. A poll of 1,939 married women by vouchercodespro.co.uk found that over a third of respondents no longer class themselves as friends with one of their bridesmaids.

Seventy-three percent even said that they had an argument with one of their bridesmaids at some point in the countdown to the wedding day. With jealousy, insecurities and financial issues as the most common reasons for such fights, the case of these two sisters and their unique, specific argument is far less common.

According to the bridesmaid, her sister asked her to remove a necklace she wears everyday for the day of the wedding. Described as a “small cross necklace,” she said she was given it by her grandpa at the age of 13.

“I wear it 24/7 unless I’m taking a shower or going swimming. I wear the necklace for sentimental and religious reasons. Needless to say, it’s extremely important to me,” she wrote.

“A few days ago, Cindy and I were going dress shopping together. Cindy’s five other bridesmaids were also there. While I was trying on one of the dresses, Cindy made a comment about my necklace. She told me that I’ll have to take my necklace off during her wedding because it ‘clashes with the dress and the theme.'”

The bridesmaid recalled telling her sister that she will “have to refuse her request” as the necklace is important to her. It led to her sister getting upset and insisting she removes the “stupid necklace” for the day, dubbing it a piece of “gaudy jewelry.”

Ultimately, the bridesmaid was left storming out of the shop while all the other bridesmaids took her sister’s side. “They said that I’m being uptight and what Cindy wants should be my top priority,” she wrote.

Overwhelmingly, Reddit users weighed against the anonymous bridesmaid, arguing that removing a necklace is a simple, light request.

“She’s not asking you to throw it away. It seems like a reasonable request to remove it for a few hours. It sounds like you are just being difficult for the sake of it,” wrote one user, gaining over 20,000 votes on the comment.

“You say you take it off to go swimming, so what was the big deal to take it off for a few hours for the wedding?” reasoned another. “Of course her behavior of yelling and berating you wasn’t acceptable, but really, she wasn’t asking you to cut your hair or lose weight, she was asking you to change your necklace for less than a day. I think it’s best for everyone, if you’re not at the wedding.”

“Your sister went from calm to hurricane in a second. Not necessary,” agreed another user. “It is her wedding. She’s not asking you to cut your hair or cover a tattoo with makeup. She’s asking you to not wear a necklace.

“Find a compromise,” they suggested. “You’ll tuck it in your purse or bra for the wedding and pictures, but wear it for the reception. You’ll wear it like a bracelet so it can be hidden by the flowers during pictures.”

Newsweek reached out to u/ThrowRANeck_lace for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.