Camila Cabello says she refuses to put ‘pressure’ on finding love

Up until November 2021, Camila Cabello was one half of a mega couple. The other half being, of course, Shawn Mendes. However, several months and one breakup song (Mendes released When You’re Gone back in April) later and the Cuban-American singer has revealed that she’s more focused on making friends than getting into a new relationship. 

Speaking to Cosmopolitan UK, Cabello discussed her current expectations when it comes to romantic relationships, explaining: “I don’t put a lot of focus on it.”

She continued: “I just really want to hang out with people, I want to make friends and I’ve made a lot of great friends over the past year… if something happens, then that’s really fun, but I don’t put any pressure on it.”

However, the former-Fifth Harmony member admitted that her mindset is something that is relatively new to her. “Before I used to be like, ‘Yes, love, oh my god, love,’ and now I’m just trying to have a good time,” she said. “I just want to live my life and have great friendships. If something comes out of [them] that’s something more, then that’s great.”

And it’s a mindset we’re pretty in awe of, especially in a world where it can feel pretty hard to get away from the idea of finding the ‘one’ and coupling up (cough Love Island cough). Add into that the loved-up couples selfies we’re constantly seeing on Instagram and refusing to buy into the pressure can feel like an uphill climb, though it’s clearly one that Cabello has reached the top of (any secrets, CC?).

Later on in the interview the star also spoke candidly about her struggle with anxiety during her teens and early 20s, revealing: “It was something I just lived with. I was used to having functioning anxiety that got really bad every half a year.

“Then I started opening up to friends, and I realised how much suffering and neuroses are normal, and that we’re all batshit crazy in our own way, but when it keeps you from having healthy relationships and being more often than not in a relatively stable place, that I needed to seek out some therapy.”

And starting therapy has helped her to recognise where she was creating obstacles and difficulties in her own life: “Talking about it really helped me realise, ‘Oh, I think this is making my life harder than it is for other people.’”

She added: “I think pretending is a form of psychological torture and brings the most anxiety.

“We do that so much in our society and culture. We’re constantly hustling and putting on a smile when we don’t feel good.”

The Bam Bam singer also revealed she has a soft spot for Phoebe Waller-Bridge (who doesn’t?), as she gushed: “Ooh, and I love Fleabag. I love Crashing by Phoebe Waller-Bridge, too. In fact, I love Phoebe Waller-Bridge, period.”

Same, Camila Cabello, same.

Oh, and on that note, we’re definitely free to add a few new friends to our roster – just shout if you ever want to grab drinks.