Can Abbey and Jacob look past the age gap?

Jacob, 22, says:

This was totally out of my comfort zone. I even had second thoughts the night before about pulling out — nerves were getting the best of me. But I ended up going and I’m glad I did. It was a fun night and something new. Not often you’re set up by a total stranger with another stranger.

My first impression of Abbey was that she looked beautiful. She had a great personality as well. She mentioned she was 24 which is not a big deal for me, but for her, I think she felt like I was too young. She mentioned she usually goes for people much older.

We did end up sharing a few similar interests though and some pretty random ones. We both have weird texture issues with bananas, we also enjoy going to the gym and keeping fit but don’t mind the odd Sunday session either. We also talked a lot about red flags and icks for us in the dating world. For me, a red flag is clearly seeing the person you’re chatting to, is online, but not reading my messages or responding. My biggest ick is someone not having a personality and being dull like a pencil.

To be honest, I haven’t been super active on the dating scene recently. I do tend to keep to myself a bit and it has been a long time since I’ve been in a relationship. I think the last time, I was in Year 11 and that was about six years ago. I think a lot of people go on dating apps for an ego boost and a lot of guys don’t actually use them for what they’re meant for, so I do find that hard.

We stayed at the restaurant for a good two and a half hours chatting. I’d say the most awkward part was me at times finding it hard to spit out words and forgetting where we were in the conversation. I think Abbey spent a decent chunk of the date thinking about what to say next because I would just lose all focus. Nerves had a massive part in that. I didn’t feel nervous walking in but as soon as I sat down they came rushing in.

It was a really fun date though and I did have a good time, even though we may not have been an exact match.

7/10

Abbey, 24, says:

I arrived for my date on time for once. I have this habit of making guys wait a little while on a first date but I am very impressed with myself for arriving on time.

My first impression of Jacob was that he looked really young. He seemed like a really nice guy. He was very polite but I definitely got the vibe that he was younger than I was.

He asked me if I have ever dated anyone younger and I said no. I usually go for guys older than I am, around the 10-year mark. I knew there wasn’t going to be a chance for a romantic connection. I felt like I couldn’t be romantic or flirtatious towards him because of the age difference. Even though it was only a two-year gap, I kind of felt like a grandma with him. We are at very different stages of life. He’s still figuring himself out and going through uni, whereas, even though I am only two years older, I have had quite a bit of life experience and dating experience. I’ve travelled a lot and I’m very career focused. I’ve got goals I am working towards. I’ve done my postgrad and moved out of home very young so I guess that is why the gap felt significant.

So yeah, we definitely fell into the friendship zone really fast. There was a point in the date where I was even giving him dating advice for the future (laughs). We did have a fun chat though and Jacob’s company was really enjoyable but definitely no connection in a romantic way.

We had one pretty awkward moment on the date where Jacob asked me if I had any pets and I was like, well, I did have a dog for 15 years but I had to put him down a few days ago, so we quickly changed the topic. Another funny moment was when he asked me if I had a TikTok account and I was like, Oh god, I am such a dinosaur, I have no idea how TikTok even works.

I ended up applying for Blind Date after my sister tagged me in one of the posts. I don’t love the apps, I’d rather meet someone naturally. I’ve met people in the past at the beach or on a night out.

We wrapped up our date around 8.30pm and called it a night. We had a good conversation with each other and enjoyed a few drinks. He’s a great guy but just no connection for me.

5/10

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