DEAR HARRIETTE: I am the main person who works in my family, though it used to be my husband.
As he gets older and slows down, he expects the same of me, even though I am too young to retire and we can’t afford it. Whenever I have to make a business call at the same time that he wants me to watch a movie or hang out with him, he gets mad. That’s ridiculous!
I have been working from home for more than two years due to the pandemic. My employer allows me to continue working from home, which I thought would be nice, but now I’m not so sure. We also have the option of going back into the office either hybrid — three days a week — or full-time. I am rethinking what I should do.
At first, I was excited to stay at home, but it won’t work if my husband is constantly interrupting me or being mad that I am working in the first place. What do you think I should do?
Where To Work
DEAR WHERE TO WORK: The great news is that you have options. It sounds like you will have more peace and productivity if you are not working at home all the time.
Many people who have gone to a hybrid work experience say that they have been more productive because they use their time in the office more efficiently. Perhaps you can try the three-day-per-week model and map out your time so that it gives you more flexibility when you are working from home.
You will still have to manage your husband and remind him that you still have a job and the responsibilities that go along with that. When at home, establish your working hours and your break times. Remind your husband of what those hours are and do your best to comply.
Make sure to allot time that is exclusively for him. That may help him relax during your work hours.
DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend “Mary” threw a small and intimate event over the weekend, and I ended up running into my ex-boyfriend there. He was there with his date, who just happens to be close friends with Mary.
I felt blindsided. I wish Mary had warned me that he might be there, or that he is now dating a friend of hers. She must have known who was coming, as she asked all guests to RSVP for the event.
Am I wrong to be upset with Mary for not warning me?
Blindsided
DEAR BLINDSIDED: You have every right to feel uncomfortable about what happened. Talk to Mary. Ask her if she knew her friend was bringing your ex. Tell her how his presence made you feel and that you wished you had gotten a heads-up — if only to get your mind around the fact that he would be present.
Ask her why she didn’t tell you what she knew. Point out that you would have informed her if the tables were turned. That doesn’t mean, by the way, that she should have uninvited him, but that letting you know would have helped you when you saw him with this other woman.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to [email protected] or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
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