Harriette Cole: I’m so embarrassed that people saw these photos of me

DEAR HARRIETTE: I agreed to model for my friend, who is an aspiring photographer. I trusted my friend to share the pictures with me first before putting them on social media, but he didn’t honor our agreement.

The pictures that he shared were horrible. They weren’t even edited. People from school, friends, family, and even complete strangers have seen the pictures — all of which were unflattering.

The experience was so embarrassing that I wished I had never agreed to help in the first place. He eventually took them down, but I had to practically plead with him to remove them.

Was I overreacting, or was he wrong for posting without letting me approve them first?

Unflattering Pictures

DEAR UNFLATTERING PICTURES: You were not wrong to expect this photographer to honor his agreement. It sounds like his idea of what is flattering and yours are different. In the future, you may want to put your agreement in writing as to how photographs can be shared before a single photo is taken so that everyone is crystal clear about usage.

Good for you that you pressed him to take them down until he relented. Make it clear to him that none of those images can be used again. Ask to see the others to determine if anything is salvageable.

Remember that this person fancies himself an artist. He is likely extremely uncomfortable that you disliked his art so vehemently. Help him to see if he can use anything at all from the shoot, and tell him specifically what you think doesn’t work about the images he initially posted.

DEAR HARRIETTE: Sometimes it feels like no matter what I say or do, my friend group always makes jokes at my expense.

Even though I laugh along, it still feels like the jokes are usually pointed in my direction. I don’t know if it’s intentional or not, but it’s difficult for me to just sit there and take it.

Everyone always tells me to lighten up and relax, but that’s getting harder and harder each time we meet up.

How can I stop this from happening? What could I have done to become the friend in the group that everyone laughs at?

Butt of the Jokes

DEAR BUTT OF THE JOKES: Friend dynamics are among the most puzzling, second only to families.

When you are part of a friend group, sadly there often is one person who becomes the punching bag.

You are right to believe that the negative behavior demonstrated by the friends is not always conscious or intentional. It sometimes becomes a knee-jerk experience. One minute innocent banter is being volleyed about; the next, daggers seem to be tossed. You probably became the punching bag because you didn’t stop it immediately the first time someone threw a jab.

Regardless of the reason, the way to get it to stop is to stop tolerating it. The next time someone says something inappropriate about you or to you, call them on it and walk away. Leave the group at once.

If they continue to barb at you when you rejoin, leave again. Be prepared to exit the group for good if they don’t get the message. You deserve to be treated better. This could be a sign that it’s time for you to make new friends.

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