DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a friend who copies everything that I do, literally. This has been going on for a long time.
We grew up together and went through high school in the same class. That’s when it started. She would go out and buy my favorite top or get her hair cut the same as mine. It was annoying back then, but now, some 10 years later, I have noticed that she is still doing it.
We don’t see each other much — intentionally on my part — but we are still connected on social media. Last month, I got a brand-new hairstyle with a new color and cut. I noticed that she posted a photo of herself this week with a look identical to mine. It was creepy to me. We are grown women, and she’s still copying me!
Should I say something to her? We barely speak or see each other these days, yet here she is, still clinging.
Let Go
DEAR LET GO: If you really want to separate yourself from this woman, consider blocking her from your social media. That way, at least she won’t be able to observe you directly.
However, if she is hellbent on being your clone, she will still find a way to do so. If that is the case, what you can do is let go of any emotion you have toward her. Just let her be. For whatever reason, she is fan-girling you. Let her do that, and live your own authentic life.
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been seeing someone casually for a few years. I stopped seeing him when I got into a serious relationship, but when that relationship ended, we began seeing each other casually again.
Up until recently, we had never had a physically intimate relationship. Ever since we introduced physical intimacy into our casual relationship, he seems to be very interested in being exclusive with me.
I don’t hate the idea of being in a relationship with this person, but it’s a little strange that he’s suddenly serious now that we’ve been intimate.
Could this be a bad sign? Would it be foolish to explore a relationship with him, given the circumstances?
Curious
DEAR CURIOUS: It could be that he was always interested in being more serious with you but didn’t know how to say it. It could be that crossing that barrier into physical intimacy was a game-changer for him. I’m old-school, so I believe that should represent some degree of commitment. I think it’s a very good sign that this man considers this an opportunity to deepen your bond.
It is time now for you to step back and consider what you want. You have enjoyed this man’s friendship for years. Now the dynamics have changed. Do you like where you two are? Can you envision a future with him? What do you want? Once you are clear about that, ask him what he wants. Talk to him. Get vulnerable in your conversation and figure out what’s next. This may be your moment together.
Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to [email protected] or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.
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