Miss Manners: I’m insulted by my guests’ unwanted housekeeping

DEAR MISS MANNERS: We often host friends and family for overnight visits. Before departing, some of our guests take it upon themselves to strip their beds and take their linens to the laundry room; some even start the washing machine.

Of course we have never even hinted that this is expected, as it most certainly is not. For me, it’s also absolutely unwanted. I find it insulting that they act as if we’re the kind of hosts that would expect them to do this.

My wife disagrees and says they’re only trying to be helpful, but I wonder if they don’t trust us to wash the sheets between guests.

I was always taught that while it’s important to be a gracious host, it’s also important to be a gracious guest.

GENTLE READER: How about teaching you not to presume unkind motives where none are intended? Your guests are merely trying to lessen your burden and pitch in — not to criticize your home care and hygiene.